Mind Blown.

Oliver Wendell Holmes said, “Every now and then a man’s mind is stretched by a new idea or sensation, and never shrinks back to its former dimensions.”

Stephen Covey is known for reminding us that when it comes to relationships, no matter how much time has passed or life lived in-between, when we connect with someone we always pick up right where we left off at our last meeting. Our brains just take us back to that place and we go from there. I had an experience last week that brought this concept into full view.

I sat down at a table next to a person who knew me when we attended the same church almost 20 years ago. As we started from the place where we’d left off, like Frodo and Sam hiding under a cloak seen as a rock by the soldiers at the gate of Mount Doom, I was cloaked in a past version of myself and therefore, completely unseen.  I have no desire whatsoever to live a cloaked existence but the reality is that if the person talking to me actually really knew me we would not have been at the same table together.

What kind of religion do we embrace when we life is more about being right and getting things correct than it is about actually living?

I returned home and shared a photo of our new home 30 minutes away and closer into the Twin Cities on Facebook. Good friends were congratulating me and asking questions but  another friend from back then sent me a private message saying that he hoped I was “installing the correct lense for life”…followed up by “The main lens that people use is either the lens of the world or the lens of the Spirit.”

I’m still feeling the effects of the Evangelical stun gun.

6 thoughts on “Mind Blown.

  1. Jane! I’ve been meaning to tell you how much your writings put into words my own journey and I’m grateful you have words and take the time to write. I “get” the Frodo analogy and the evangelical stun gun. Makes my heart beat a little faster as I read and feel your words…

    • Paula,
      Thanks so much! I actually deleted the post because I wasn’t sure that it would make sense to anyone but me because I was SO angry. Going home to Norfolk is like choosing to exist in a mine field for me. I don’t usually allow myself to spend time with those who would let loose like that. I am trying to give my need to hit back because it’s a fruitless pursuit. Why do Evangelical men think that they can talk to me like that? Because I have let them. No more. Next time they’d better be ready because I fully plan to say what I really think IN the moment and if they can’t handle it, so be it. I’m so done. I do appreciate your words of encouragement. Thanks again.

  2. Oh, man! Seriously, some days I just wanna punch somebody in the nose! Stun gun perfectly describes this, except it also brings out in me the urge to spit! 🙂

  3. Howdy! Thiis article couldn’t be written any better! Looking through this article reminds mee of my previous roommate!
    He continually kespt preaching about this. I am going to forward this information to him.
    Fairly certain he’ll hae a good read. I appreciate you for sharing!

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